fix: SpinButton spins forever if the first change results in a disabled button

[snowystinger]

Closes #9676

There are two approaches in this PR. The first commit made the change in useSpinButton and checked the attributes of the button being pressed. If it's disabled, stop the spin.

The second approach was a bit more systematic, I canceled the press event chain if the element was pressed but then was disabled in the pointer up event. This seems more desirable, but I am more cautious since it changes usePress.

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